Tuesday, October 31, 2006
Advance Medical Directive (AMD)
The Act allows adults to refuse extraordinary life-sustaining treatment for a terminal illness.
The low sign up rate worries Health Minister Khaw Boon Wan. "You know something is not quite right. You should be having hundreds of thousands of people signing on." Although he acknowledged that it may be a sensitive, emotive and personal issue, he intends to start a national conversation on end-of-life care and how people choose to be treated in their final stages.
Due to Asian cultural attitudes, Singapore society is not ready for it. There is not enough public awareness, and even if there is, people would not want to sign up either. Some people are worried that they might not be given a chance to live. Technology is so advanced that it can postpone death for many days and many weeks.
Athough personally I feel there isn't going to be any quality of life to the patient then. And there is the physical pain. The high medical costs. The biggest cost of medical care is in the last days.
The document to apply for an AMD can be downloaded from the MOH website, but it is not so easy to get it signed. You need to find two doctors as witnesses.
Chris & I had in our early twenties signed directives to donate all our organs after our deaths. We will sign the AMD, when the process is made simpler & easier. The decision to stop life-saving procedures should not be left to the family members, I should decide when I'm still in control of my faculties.
Saturday, October 28, 2006
Survivor: Cook Islands
Aahhh, it's here. It's finally here. Survivor: Cook Islands premieres in Singapore, 27th October at 11 pm on Channel 5. About 5 weeks after its launch in the US.MediaCorp TV Channel 5 has deliberately delayed the debut of the series here due to the sensitive racial issues. The TV programme shown here in Singapore has been edited.
| Grin it like Cao Boi |
Within the Asian-American tribe, there are two Koreans, a Filipino, a Filipino-Hawaiian and a Vietnamese. The Chinese is not represented. Everyone’s dilemma is added to by the fact that prior to filming, none of the contenders had a clue that they would be — unofficially — representing their people.
There is Cao Boi (or ‘cowboy’), the middle-aged Vietnamese man with the shaggy white hair and the long beard. Not a good thing for accurate portrayals of Asians, no.
“Take one look at me,” he says, while the camera intercuts with footage of him scrambling to eat and drink from a coconut like an at-one-with-nature expert (note: being close to nature is also a stereotypical Asian trait), “I don’t look educated, I don’t fit the stereotype: hardworking, Mr Engineer, jacket, suit and tie…. I just don’t fit the stereotype.”
He’s talking about the goody-goody hardworking Asian stereotype. Well, maybe he doesn’t know about the other Asian stereotype of the old man whose unkempt overgrown hair symbolises his vast knowledge of life and its intricate workings. The wise man whom at first glance we might expect to be rubbish, until we next see him picking aggressively at one of the guys’ forehead because his “bad wind” is causing his head to ache, and making the headache go away. The wise man who knows better.
My grandma did this to her grandchildren too whenever we had headaches. It really helps.
I can’t wait to see how the rest of the season plays out.
Wednesday, October 25, 2006
OMG! An Accident!
Chris & I reached Singapore at 10.12 pm. We alighted at Beach Road, just next to the Beach Road Hawker Centre. We went for a drink before walking towards Jalan Sultan to hail a cab.As we were approaching the bus-stop outside Keypoint, Chris & I saw a cab on the opposite road with its 'For Hire' light on, it was about to make a U-turn. Chris wanted to wave to the cab but I already saw a couple who were at the bus-stop, hailing it. I turned to tell Chris & before I could finish my sentence, I heard a loud crash.
I turned round & was horrified to see the taxi had already rammed into a motor bike. Two men were laying on the ground, writhing in pain.
Instinctively I ran towards the motorcyclist asking if he was okay. He was in shock & gasping, he finally managed to let out an audible "How's my friend?" He tried to sit up but I made him lay down while I checked on his friend.
I turned round & ran to his friend who was also in shock. He was flung about 3 metres from the bike. He stared blankly at me when I asked him if he was okay. There was blood on his nose & mouth. There were cuts on his knuckles. He complained of pain in his left knee. Someone was helping to remove the helmet from his head.
By this time, a few people had come to help. Chris made me wait at the kerb with our luggage while he & an unidentified elderly man helped to divert the oncoming traffic. Another 2 men helped the injured pillion rider to the bus-stop because he was lying right in the middle of the moving traffic. The taxi-driver also came out of his vehicle to check on the motorcyclist.
The young couple who was hailing the taxi involved in the accident, flagged down a passing taxi & fled. The young man did try to help the injured but his female companion dragged him away.More people had gathered around the accident scene. Vehicles slowed down so drivers & passengers could gawk at the injured man laying in the middle of the road.
Within 15 minutes, the ambulance arrived. The paramedics checked on the motorcyclist first. They made him stand up & walk. He was fine. Then they turned to the pillion rider. They cleaned & dressed his wounds. When the man complained that his ribs hurt & he couldn't walk, they brought out a stretcher & decided to send him to the hospital for observation.
Two policemen had then arrived at the scene on their motor bikes. They assessed the scene & talked to the parties involved. Chris was standing at the other end of the road, alone, still diverting the traffic.The policemen starting taking statements from the agitated motorcyclist & frightened taxi driver.
Chris came back. We didn't have to give our statements because we didn't see what actually happened. We left in another taxi.
Eating Places in Genting Highlands 吃在云顶
I visited some of the restaurants & eateries when I was there.
Genting Hotel
There are several popular restaurants here and some of them have been operating for a long time. The Coffee Terrace has been renovated & now serves many cuisines. I still like its Ipoh Hor Fun & Penang Assam Laksa.

I was there for dinner on my first night & I tried their Indian food. The naan was exceptionally good. I saw some Indian diners stacking their plates high with the naan. I dipped the naan in a spicy fish curry. It was heavenly. And I tried their Indian style Sweet & Sour Prawn, it was so good that Chris & I finished a big plate of it.

The beef & chicken satays were yummy too!
There is the popular Hao You ( 好友) Restaurant that serves Chinese dimsum & dishes. I love their Bak Kut Teh. It is usually packed during meal times.
Next to it is their fast-food restaurant. No fuss dining here. It's self service , you order your food, find a seat - eat & go. I discovered their delicious Pork Meat & Ball Noodles (RM12.90++). The soup was very tasty and the hor fun (rice noodles) is smooth.
I had breakfast at The bakery, located in front of the hotel lobby. They serve a fantastic Raisin Scone! So fluffy & crumbly. Wow! Do ask the staff to heat it up for you, it tasted better when eaten hot. 

Chris & I had a light lunch at Lao Di Fang (老地方) Restaurant. He had a Chicken Char Siew Noodles while I had Ipoh Hor Fun. Their Fish Head Curry is very popular. And they also serve late night supper from 11pm to 3 am daily.

Resort Hotel
There is a wide selection of local Malay food at its Buffet lunch. A great way to get to know the many wonderful dishes of Malaysia.
First World Hotel
On the ground floor are two food courts & several restaurants. The food at the food courts is not too bad, if you just want to fill your stomach. For better food, you would have to pay more. Not neccessarily so in certain restaurants, they charge high prices, but their food is so-so.

I bought some Shanghainese dimsum (6 for RM16.80) from one of the stalls. They were not only expensive but unplatable.

There's a Ah Yat Abalone Restaurant on level 2A. The food is great & so is the prices. I love their braised abalone which is flavourful & delicious.
There is a food court on level 2B that houses a few stalls that sells good & cheap food. There's the Claypot Rice stall, the Ramen stall, the Taiwanese food stall, the Hot Stone grill stall & Mr Teppanyaki - the grill stall.
Inside the casino, they offer free coffee, tea, milo & syrup drinks. A packet of instant noodles sell for RM4! A stick of you char kway sells for RM2.65.I saw some Malaysians bring their own rice cookers & boxes of cooked food. It's a great way to holiday without burning a big hole in your pockets!
Genting Highlands


I went to Genting Highlands for a short getaway with hubby. We left Singapore at 7 am on Sunday & reached Genting at 1.40 pm. We took a double-deckered super VIP coach. It was very comfortable.
We stopped at Ayer Hitam for a break.

It is a must for all the coaches from Singapore. The drivers get free meals & drinks plus a rest while bringing business to the owner of this out of the way eatery. The price of the food here has increased by leaps & bounds! Whoa! RM6 for a bowl of noodles! I bought 2 pieces of fish cakes for RM2!
See how tiny a RM1 fish cake is!
The moment we arrived in Genting Highlands, it was a nightmare. It was chaotic. I started having a headache. I shouldn't have come on this super peak period. Chris wanted to help his friend then by taking over this holiday package from him. The friend's companion had to go for a surgery. It was supposed to be a relaxing vacation for us but it turned into a nightmare.
The whole place was packed with holiday-makers. It was difficult to walk anywhere without bumping into others. There were queues everywhere. The restaurants were packed & there were long queues for tables. There were long queues for toilets. There were queues for jackpot machines & gambling tables. There were extra-ordinary long queues at the theme park. And not many people were patient, there were many queue jumpers too and that caused a lot of problems.
Genting Highlands Outdoor Theme Park
Add to that, we had a room where the ceiling of the toilet was leaking. We couldn't use the toilet & I had to use the public toilet in the lobby. We tried to change our room but all rooms that day were fully utilised, even standby rooms. There were some 5900 rooms in Genting resort! Incredible.
Chris didn't want to press them any more in case they decided to open a certain standby room, which might be haunted!
We had a buffet dinner at Coffee Terrace Restaurant on our first night. It was pretty expensive & the food was mediocre. We paid RM134 (S$58.30) for two.
I find the prices of food & beverages sold in Genting Highland to be exorbitant. RM16 (S$7) for a set of 2 pratas! RM6.50 (S$2.85) for a small packet of Nasi Lemak! RM15 (S$6.60) for a bowl of Pork Ball Noodles or Ipoh Hor Fun! RM13 for a Big Mac Meal! Is it because this is a holiday destination or has the food prices in Malaysia risen so much? Gosh, how do the ordinary folks survive?
We took a peek at the casino after dinner. The place was so smoky & noisy. The PSI level must be way above 200! Many gamblers were puffing away at their cigarettes, whether in excitement or anxiety.
There were many elderly gamblers. I saw a few with walking sticks, one on wheelchair & a maid in tow & another one on clutches! Many were Singaporeans. Most of them had gathered their friends & neighbours to make the trip here.
It was foggy & cold outside the hotel.
Gosh! I was suffocating to death in the casino & had to make a hasty retreat to my room. It was the same anywhere in the resort. The smokers blatantly light up, everywhere, disregarding the many young kids & babies around. I'm glad Singapore banned smoking indoors in public places.

Indoor rock-climbing & outdoor theme park rides.
The next morning, the hotel changed our room. Only to discover the next morning, my bed was infested with bed bugs! I had red, ulgy swellings on my arms, legs & back. They were extremely itchy too.
I was glad when it was time to return home. Well, I was not happy for very long.
To our dismay, we found that the luxurious coach that we arrived in has been changed to a 25-seater coach. And we have to endure 7 hours of ride with some boors. One man who looked like a contractor was sitting next to Chris, & he took off his shoes in the coach. The smell was so pungent, we almost asphyxiated.
His Ah Lian (female boor) friend & mother who were sitting in front of me, talked loudly in Hokkien & kept raising & lowering their backrests. The woman would suddenly lower her backrest without notice, knocking my knees & jerking me from my sleep.
At one juncture, I was about to burst out when Chris held me back. I would have loved to pull her by her long hair & banged her head on the glass panes! I'm that violent when provoked.
Monday, October 23, 2006
Be a beggar better than ask for welfare
据早报报道,陈家总收入曾达到1400元,所以不符合继续得到社理会援助金。我本身于7月5日第一次鼓起勇气踏入西南社理会(SouthWestCDC),但社工说我家庭总收入约1300,没有债务,所以不符合得到任何社理会援助金。除此,社工还以带讽刺的口吻说,拥有电单车代步是一种奢侈行为。社工并没衡量比较搭公共交通的花费和拥有电单车代步的开销,就任意批评。鼓足勇气,把自尊心收起,却得到这种耻辱,若你是我,你还敢向政府机构“讨钱”吗?
女儿(染色体有缺陷)在竹脚妇幼医院的医药援助又到期了。每半年提呈所有文件只为每四个月一次去复诊拿药,太麻烦了。于是老公决定多加班自负费用,不要再当个乞丐忍气吞声。
我们不是不想得到一些援助,但我们受到诸多阻碍。试想若你像我们遇到同等待遇,你会如何?靠自己最好,不必看人脸色。虽然很苦但我们尽力撑下去。我不能保证我会比死者想得开,但目前我们还在“苟活”。
低收入家庭,加上要承担孩子一笔可观、永久的医药开销,是会比别人辛苦的。健康很重要,但像染色体有缺陷和基因之类的先天性问题,甲状腺亢进等无法预知的状况,就不是我们所能控制和预防的。
麦文说我们不应只往金钱方面想,教导人们积极的面对人生。我认为事不关己,任何“建议”形同废话。我们也是有血有肉的,任何的讽刺、批评都对敏感的我们造成伤害、退缩。被生活折磨得有如行尸走肉(过一天算一天),你要我们多坚强?
Friday, October 20, 2006
S$1000 for a life! A tragedy....
On the morning of 18th October, Tan Jee Suan gave his 13-year-old younger son S$9 to buy chicken rice for dinner for his disabled mother, 15-year-old brother & he. For a long time, the family has survived only on instant noodles daily.
At 6.15 pm, Tan told his younger son that he had found a job & was going to work then. He would be back the following morning. Before Tan left, he told his son, "You have to take good care of your mother, and look after yourselves well."
At 10.15 pm that night, Tan made the final decision of his life, he ended his brief 46 years on earth by jumping into the path of an approaching train. The train crashed into him, dragging him under the carriages......
When the men from Civil Defence rescued him, he was not a 'complete' man. The train has severed him into 3 parts. Tan's life ended the moment he leapt.
A mortician later said that Tan required more than 160 stitches to stitch his dismembered body parts together.
45 minutes later, the police knocked on the door of a 3-room HDB flat in Boon Lay Place. A disabled Lim Sian Hua opened the door. The police informed her that her husband had died, she must go to the mortuary the following morning to identify her husband's body. But Lim didn't even have a cent on her for the bus fare to the mortuary. A policeman took pity on her & gave her S$5 for the bus fare.
Lim is only 43 years old, disabled & with 2 children in school. She was working 12 hours a day for a miserly sum of S$500 a month. How is she going to face the bleak future? Helplessly she clutched the S$5 bill tightly in her fist. There was no more tears, because all her tears has dried up.
Tan was at his wit's end because the money he owed various billing organisations was due on 19th. Where was he going to find money?
He was unemployed for a long time & his financial woes was becoming unbearable. He was deeply worried and he was getting desperate. But in front of his disabled wife, he appeared strong & he told her he would give her a sum of money to pay the bills, including the school fees he owed for a year. All these bills add up to more than S$1000. Where is the money going to come from?
Tan is gone. He could have asked for assistance. But then, did he know he is eligible for public assistance? Was he aware of his rights? The Residents' Committee is just at the next block of flats. Did he know he could ask his MP for help?
It is so heart-rending.
It's so typical for the relevant authorities to be defensive when we trace the tragedy to them. It has always been a 'mending the broken fence after the sheep has died' mentality. When are they ever going to face their shortcomings? When is the wayang going to stop & focus on the immediate sufferings of the ordinary people?
It is also incredible because it happened in Singapore. It shouldn't have. Our country is so flushed with money, it can spend hundreds of millions on art theaters, indoor stadiums, government buildings....etc. It boasts of numerous public assistance schemes, yet a citizen has to commit suicide because he couldn't pay bills amounting toS$1000. What is wrong with our system? Is there a place in the hearts of our government for the ordinary citizens who has fallen behind?
Geylang Serai Hari Raya Bazaar
I was back tonight to buy supper and I brought Tun along so she could buy her clothes for Hari Raya. I go to this annual bazaar every year. There is so much to see & buy, especially the food.
The Muslim brothers & sisters at the bazaar are very friendly and when I stopped to ask about certain food or item, they would patiently & cheerfully explain to me. I meet some regular stall-holders every year too.
There were many food stalls this year. In fact, people are more willing to spend on food than fashion wear or decorative items.
Rambly burger stalls were scattered all throughout the bazaar. I bought mine at a popular stall. The burgers are different from others because the patties are halve, sprinkled with curry powder, then drizzled with mayonnaise, chilli sauce & a secret sauce and finally wrapped in omelette. Aaahhh! Sedap sekali (very delicious)!
There's this wonderful BBQ chicken stall that I love. Its grilled chicken is dipped in a tub of peanut sauce. Oh, the chicken is so flavourful! mmm.......mmm....mmm...
I bought some snacks that sell for S$10 for 3 packets. There was a wide selection of them, most of them that I like but I can't buy too many or else I would fall sick after eating so much. Plus the weather is very bad these few weeks. I might get too heaty.
We had to buy the delicious putu piring at the coffee shop in Haig Road market. It is steamed rice cakes with coconut sugar filling and eaten with freshly shredded coconut. The coconut sugar is sweet but so delicious & fragrant. The cakes are sold at S$1 for 3 pieces. There is a constant queue for it at this famous stall, even if there's no Hari Raya Bazaar.
Chris was very happy with the food that I bought. It means we are going to have a sumptious supper! Yeah!
Thursday, October 19, 2006
94th Birthday!
My father-in-law is 94 years old today.Wow!
I married Chris 16 years ago. Papa was already 78. He is more than half a century older than me. Wow! He was still working in a popular Hainanese Chicken Rice stall in Whampoa, chopping chickens from 2 pm to 9 pm daily. He would go to the stall an hour or two earlier everyday. He never idled on his job. Despite his age, he worked very hard, 6 days a week. He was paid only S$900 a month.
His employer found the best worker he could get. I used to think Papa was stupid. He didn't have any job benefits, he was underpaid, he was terribly loyal. Whenever there were a shortage of workers, he would help. He would willingly stay on to clear the crowd of customers even if it was late. If there was a huge lunchtime crowd at 12 noon, he would go when his boss called. And still work until 9 pm. He is not calculative. And he didn't get paid for overtime.
He knows I like Hainanese steamed chicken, he would sometimes buy some for me after his work. He refused to take the steamed chicken from his employer because they wouldn't charge him for it. He would buy from another rival stall.
That's Papa. A very honest & upright man. He doesn't believe in taking free things. He believes you would pay for it somehow in some ways.

Papa & Mama, together for almost 70 years of their life.
Papa was a great cook. He could cook a 10-course Chinese dinner. He even had a whole set of beautiful porcelain dining ware for 10 people. It must be antique now. Too bad the set is not complete now because I broke some of the bowls & spoons.
He cooked a great Hainanese Chicken Rice and his chilli is awesome. He was the free advisor to a few popular chicken rice stalls.
He's very generous towards others, he would spend money on them but is thrifty when it comes to himself. He's the one who taught Chris that, and I'm not happy with it. Chris is way too generous with his friends.
Papa & Mama live frugally. Everyday they must have Pork Rib soup boiled with carrots & potatoes, sometimes with beans. They must have vegetables & fish too - Mama buys small, cheap fish. They have never been to a shopping mall, a cinema, a stadium, ......They have never taken any rides on the MRT.
Papa's health is deteriorating year by year. He is still mobile but he is a little senile. He forgets easily. He still remembers us though. He's so cute, he's like a small child, he would ask Chris for money to buy things every time he sees him.
He loves his grandchildren very much. I hope he gets to see them married, well, at least the eldest grandson Richard, who is 25 now.
Wednesday, October 18, 2006
An Amazing Conclusion
1. The sport of choice for the urban poor is BASKETBALL.
2. The sport of choice for maintenance level employees is BOWLING.
3. The sport of choice for front-line workers is FOOTBALL.
4. The sport of choice for supervisors is BASEBALL.
5. The sport of choice for middle management is TENNIS.
AMAZING CONCLUSION:
The higher you are in the corporate structure, the smaller your balls become.
Monday, October 16, 2006
Changi Village Food Centre
After our morning walk around Changi Village, we were hungry. There were so many food stalls in this little village.And for Chris, what is the point of coming here if you don't eat the famous Nasi Lemak (Coconut Rice) dish that is very popular here. There are at least 3 food stalls that sell this famous dish. And there was a long queue at the most famous stall.
S$2 Nasi Lemak! Chris paid another 90 cents for the piece of otak.
I chose to eat from this western food stall.
I ordered the Chop & Steak Plate (S$.5.50). There is one small piece each of beef steak & pork chop. The meats were tender & juicy. Wow!

Saturday, October 14, 2006
Business was slow today
Today was a very quiet day for the business.
Chris & I had gone to Chinatown in the morning to buy BBQ sliced Pork, at the request of our Filipino friend. On the way, we bought some desserts from the popular Mei Heong Yuan Dessert. It's very popular for its selection of desserts and peanuts!
Walnut paste, Mango with Pomelo
..............awww, the super delicious Pumpkin cakes..
The shopping mall was all quiet. Many shop-keepers were either chatting with their neighbours or dozing off in their shops. I surfed the internet while Chris read the papers.
I went to get coffee & tea. It was raining. Hooray!!
Iced blended Mocha Latte (S$6.30) for Chris, teh-si (S$1.30) for me.
I left early at 5.30pm to buy dinner for the boys. They wanted Kentucky's.
What a boring day!
Friday, October 13, 2006
Want to go into business?
The chicken rice was cold & bland. The steam chicken was overcooked. I ordered Chicken Feet & Thai Tofu too. The Thai Tofu tasted good but the the other side dish was forgettable.
This shop is located in the city area. Rental does not come cheap. It's encouraging to see young people going into business, but if they don't have a good product, then it does not make sense to pour money into something that is not going to work.
There are so many chicken rice stalls in Singapore, a dime a dozen. And there are many good chicken rice stalls. Customers would flock to a good chicken rice stall no matter where it is located. And such stalls make good money.
Chris' father sold Chicken Rice for nearly 40 years. He cooks very good Hainanese chicken rice and makes a kick-ass chilli sauce. He was the consultant for a few of the now popular chicken rice stalls after his retirement. Chris didn't want to take over his father's business because the business requires him to work long hours. And it is tough.
I hope those young stall owners would improve on their dishes. I do not wish to see them fail.
Wednesday, October 11, 2006
East Coast Road - Katong
East Coast Road & Joo Chiat Road are significant roads in the Katong /Joo Chiat area where the buzz & activity lie. A melting pot of Peranakan (Straits Chinese), Eurasian, Malay, Indian & Chinese cultures, this area could well be 'Little Singapore'. It is a treasure trove of rich history, beautiful architecture & picture-perfect kopitiams, nonya food stalls & multi-ethnic eateries.
This is my neighbourhood. I choose to live in this particular area because of the array of food available within walking distance of my house. ha ha ha....
Well, living near the beach, shopping malls, airport....to live close to amenities are also some of my considerations.
I'll attempt to introduce my neighbourhood to all who are interested.
Tuesday, October 10, 2006
Lawn Mower
One afternoon a wealthy lawyer was riding in his limousine when he saw two men along the roadside eating grass. Disturbed, he ordered his driver to stop and he got out to investigate.
He asked one man "Why are you eating grass?"
"We don't have any money for food," the poor man replied. "We have to eat grass."
"Well, then, you can come with me to my house and I'll feed you" the lawyer said.
"But sir, I have a wife and two children with me. They are over there, under that tree."
"Bring them along," the lawyer replied. Turning to the other poor man, he stated, "You come with us also."
The second man, in a pitiful voice then said, "But sir, I also have a wife and SIX children with me!"
"Bring them all, as well," the lawyer answered.
They all entered the car, which was no easy task, even for a car as large as the limousine was. Once underway, one of the poor fellows turned to the lawyer and said, "Sir, you are too kind. Thank you for taking all of us with you."
The lawyer replied, "Glad to do it. You'll really love my place - the grass is almost a foot high!"
Monday, October 09, 2006
Roti Prata
The westerners have their pizza, we Singaporeans have the roti prata. This is an Indian dish which we eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner or supper. You can have it plain or you can add onions, or cheese or banana or even ice-cream!I was at Funan Digital Mall & I ordered a Sausage & Cheese Roti Prata from the Roti Prata stall at the basement food court.
He flipped the dough several times......
until it expanded into a large & thin piece.
Then he added sliced sausages & cheese to it. And fried it on the hot plate.The stall sells delicious rice set meals & teh tarik (pull tea) too. I also had a Sambal Chicken rice set.

Spicy Sambal Chicken Rice with a cup of teh tarik!

