When my poor cousin's husband had a mistress, she was too ashamed to tell any one, including her own family. She felt she was to blame and deserve it. She carried the burden by herself. Her 2 daughters were very young then. She was depressed and often cried to herself.
I was shocked when the husband told me the affair had been going on for 11 years!! It started even before he married my cousin. Why did he marry my cousin then? Her family was against the marriage because he was illiterate and penniless. My cousin was beautiful, educated and had many suitors. But my cousin had eyes only for him, she gave him her savings to start his business. (I heard his mistress chipped in too.)
I had to do what I could. I gave my cousin my utmost support. The breaking up of the adulterous couple was very dramatic. I went down to the company and created such a scene that the whole neighbourhood knew about them. That is one great story I would love to tell! ;)
Being typical Chinese, our family clan has close support and relationship. The matriarch of the family, my grandmother (she was a resilient and strong woman too), was surprised but pleased with the way I handled this.... that I was made her successor after she passed away. The shameful case was never brought up again within the clan.
The man was taught a very painful lesson (Trust me when I tell you it is a very painful one for him. hehe....). Nobody can bully my family members. Whenever he sees me at our family functions, he can never lift his head to look me in the eyes. No, he isn't allowed to skip our family gatherings. haha......
Can you feel the message of such posts are going to lead to something EXPLOSIVE!?!