But there would still be lots of problems. These kids would get into all sorts of trouble and mischiefs. And quite often, I get disturbed during meetings and sometimes even in the middle of the night by oversea calls from the parents to settle their kids' problems.
Young people these days mature faster than we did when we were teenagers. Some of the girls who live in hostels would have boyfriends. Well, it's natural that they do. Afterall they are living in a foreign place and they need someone to love and care for them, someone to talk to and share. There are things they wouldn't want to do with me.
Yeah, they get pregnant. sigh....... and I get blamed. "Why didn't you tell me my daughter has a boyfriend? Why didn't you tell me she stayed out the whole night? How did she get pregnant?" Excuse me. Huh?
There are a couple of girls who insist they want to move out of the hostel and move in with their friends or classmates in an apartment. I was tasked to check out the place. Boys and girls living together in a apartment. I was told boys share a room and girls share another room. I told the parents and warned them of the consequences but the mother gave the green light. Oh. OK.
My friend's daughter got pregnant a few months later. I was blamed again. "How can you not know my daughter was co-habiting with this boy? Why didn't you tell me?" What!?
Then a mother
She was a good girl. She attended school regularly, she came back before 7pm every day. She was alseep by 10pm. She would be out the whole day during weekends but she would come back by 9pm. Her Mom monitored her by frequently calling her on her cellphone. She showed me photos of her outings with her many boy and girl friends. Usually a big group of them. sigh....
Then the next batch of girls who came, I distributed condoms to every one of them and taught them how to use them if the need arises and stressed on the importance of safe sex. I also gave them a talk on sex education which was pretty interactive. hehehe.... It's better to be safe than sorry.
One day, one of the mothers came to visit her daughter and found condoms in her daughter's handbag.
"Aunty give me this!" Ok, you can imagine the rest of the story........
Geez...... How can I prevent such things from happening? Tolong (Help)! Someone help me. Give me suggestions.