A gift for Jaymes

I am putting my life in a book specially for my son Jaymes. After my near-death experience due to a mosquito's sting, I want to leave something of me for my son, so he could know his mother better. I know. He would prefer the house or cash, but before he gets those, he needs to learn how to cherish them. (And he will be tested on it. If he fails, then everything goes to charity.) hahahaha........

There are many things I want to teach him and so much to say to him, but I might not be able to say what I want should something happen to me. So writing it down would be good. I hope he reads it and pass it on to his grandchildren, not use the pages to wipe his ass. hahaha....

For the next few posts, I would like to share some stories from my book. I am not an outstanding businesswoman, I'm just an ordinary woman wanting to give my son a better life. It shows how I overcome the odds and how I did it while raising a son. I would like my son to appreciate what he has and learn from my experiences. And because I eat salt more then he eats hamburgers, he should seriously heed my advice. (Jaymes, don't let Mom hammer it into your numbskull! Oops, did I just threaten him.)

There are a lot of things which I hid from Chris. No, don't try to discredit me. I didn't do anything that would hurt him. I kept the bad things from him so that he needn't have to worry about me. Things that he won't like to hear and that could make him sad or angry, but those are all in the past now. He will be hearing this for the first time.

Because I'm a girl, I wasn't taken seriously when I started my own business. I was put down. I was humiliated. I was threatened. I was verbally abused. I was conned. I had doors slammed in my face. The amount of rejections I get was uncountable. I just gritted my teeth and ploughed on. I had to swallow my tears and put on a smile. Whatever pride I have, the wealthy and powerful will always find ways to trample on it. To some of them, the poor is just not human. These, were not taught in school. And I was not prepared for the ways of the world.

I have my own methods of teaching my son. I dislike what the school teaches. It should just keep to the educating part and not try to teach my son values that even the educators themselves do not follow. Lots of hypocrisy in our schools.

I wanted Jaymes to drop out of school. He's not cut out to be an academic. He would be better being a businessman. And to be a businessman, he needs to be able to take the shit in life and turns it into gold.

To me, success is not about wealth or power. My priority is to bring up my son who can take care of himself and his beloved, and not having to depend on handouts. In Singapore, nobody really cares for you, the government only wants to fix you. You have to be your own master.........