My male friends always lament, "Women have double standards when it comes to their hubby and son." It is a fact. Tell me if it's an Asian thing.
Wives want hubby (other people's sons) to treat them like Queens. The men must be obedient; attentive to their needs; lavish them with love and gifts; frequent visits to wife's parents; help with the household chores; wake up in the middle of the night to feed bawling baby, tutor the school-going kids, fetch the kids from school and wife from work ...... etc.
Hubby must remember birthdays, Valentine, Wedding Anniversary, festive season, our parents' birthdays. If hubby wants wife to visit his parents or attend his relatives' gathering, she would give a thousand and one reasons not to. If he doesn't want to visit her family because it is the 3rd time in a week, she would sleep with the children! Probably several nights in a row.
When shopping for gifts, she buys expensive stuff for her Mom and Dad but when it comes to her in-laws, she finds everything too expensive and tries to convince hubby they really don't need it.
Hubby is expected to help out in the house. Some are expected to cook, do the laundry and mop the floor. Because.... "Hello, your missus here is also working." (喂，老娘也有工作的！)
Wives asked, "Why can't your parents look after the kids? They are retired and doing nothing, except sit and chat at coffeeshops all day."
When it comes to our sons, we expect him not to listen to his wife too much. Afterall it's Mom who gave birth to him, not his wife. He has to take care of us, the daughter-in-law's side would have their own sons to take care of her folks. If they don't have a son, too bad.
"Why isn't she pregnant yet? If she gives birth to another girl, divorce her and marry another! Don't bring your kids to me. I have enough of bringing up my own kids. Taking care of kids is a woman's job."
Ladies, 'What goes around, comes around.' :)
It's no wonder most families prefer to have girls these days. There's an old saying,: "Have a daughter, gain a son." Women are getting more influential and powerful ...... :P
Whatever. Men are always the losers when it comes to Mom and the other woman in their lives. hehe......